If have a reputation as a bit of a heartbreaker, you're probably ending relationships for the wrong reasons. After all, not every bad day has to spell the end and not every problem is insurmountable. Wondering if you're throwing in the towel too soon? Check out 8 bad reasons to break up.
Any of these reasons that go too far could break up a relationship. Chronic fighting without resolution, infidelity, trying to control your mate, projecting your baggage onto the other person instead of taking responsibility, picking on every liitle thing, etc. can lead in the opposite direction. I think the point for me would be yes, all these reasons are going to happen, it's just how you handle these situations together and as individuals that define the success of a long term relationship.
No one can predict how long a relationship will last under the strain of too much unexpected stress. All these reasons given are predictable . . . you pretty much know this is the way it works, but what really tests us is the unpredictable. Loss of a job, loss of health, loss of a way of life, adding children to the mix, having a parent move in, things that require major adjustments and shifts in the roles we are used to being in in a relationship can change in a hearbeat. It is a huge challenge to keep a relationship going in this day and age. This is where faith, trust, courage, tenacity and all those things that build our character come into play. How do we cowboy/cowgirl up (or not) to these challenges? No, really, I'm asking the question.
I think it would be good to get some feedback on people's experiences in relationships where working together brought you closer and what things alienated you from each other?
Perhaps you should have written an article and Eharmony should haveposted yours. I found what you wrote to have way more value and insight, thanyet anotherlame articleposted by eharmony.
1st, Sarah your 'Clint Eastwood' photo....my gosh, ya just want to hug that cute little thing!
2nd, I agree..and I also have posted several comments on other issues, as one caught my eye which rattled my cage a little, as his response was about the "view your matches for free", and said that it was SPAM! Well...the one huge problem with the viewing of matches is totally promoted and advertised by EH, and was insulted by the fact that "we" who cannot respond and unaware so, that "he" was irritated by receiving such matches, and as many are viewing EH for such "matches", but also may see the "advice" posts...seems to cut us down immediately and not even knowing us, but considered SPAM. A situation created by EH!
In any event, it does get back to articles posted by EH. Read the advertisement at the beginning of this article "8 Bad Reasons To Break Up"!EH goes to all the trouble/time to interview authors and/or specialists dealing with relationships. Do you think they look into the advice topics they send out and evaluate and/or READ what we are saying! The word "lame" comes up quite often, which on some that's an understatement. However, comments/personal advice on certain aspects of the "# of Reasons..", "the Do's and Don'ts","the How To or What to Ask...", now do they actually get those questions from specialists and/or authors?
Once again, I believe since EH sends the advicetopics out someone should be monitoring them, which I had e-mailed EH my concern/comments regarding some of this "lame" topics and common sense answers and the issue consistently being addressed about "viewing your matches for free". And as I know very well myself, and they have "their" specialists as it relates to the Internet, yes they should identify to"paying members" of matchesthat are sent on the "view your matches for free". AND, if someare interesting enough and the member still wants to contact that person, should they become a member that the "paying member" be alerted to the fact that they could answer their question now. MORE SO, EH should advise the person acting on the advertisement of viewing matches for free that they WILLNOT be able to respond to questions that may be sent. In my experience, as I actually am NOT a member YET, I'd get the responses back of "did not show photo", "did not answer my question", common sense here.... EH is advertising howthey can "find the love of their life", all the smiles, couples holding hands, etc., then to get a response mentioned before as ifwe "by choice" are ignoring a matches question. Then IF we sign up and those specific members see are match "again"... they may remember and toss it out because of whatever reason they gave to close the initial "match". Not only could it be possible that person just closed a good match, EH quite possibly is loosing membership due to "forced" issues of sales tactics. So...maybe we are not ready to sign up yet, maybetiming financially is not right at that moment, and sure, EH is advertising and just sending loads of matches out, and some that are so way out of the whole scenario, just to "make that sale". EH is advertising to assist people in relationships, getting people back out dating again, etc., in my opinion...my reason I have not signed up yet. I'm not sure if it works any better than going through Yahoo Personals or similar and they are free.
Well, yes, I did get away from the original subject....sorry! But I agree with Sarah relating to EH and guess that's why I extended my comments. The response to the original article...the last question....excellent topic for discussion! I'm from MN and the Twin Cities TV news Channel 4 WCCO each night has a topic and it's called "Good Question"! Now there's an idea for EH to look into, have members and non-members send their question to them, well maybe they do/have and are just ignoring them, but then post that as an article. So far if the topics are generated by those they say they've interviewed as that of an author of a particular book or "notable" professional individual....bottom line EH topics, well a high percentage of them are "lame". And they are NOT listening (or reading). Or, perhaps the tactic thee is...this is what it does generate...and we fall into the "game" as we do respond. Probably giving EH advice for free!
OK so enough, although I have more to say about the whole thing, but I'm sure others will be responding in a similar manner and will more than likely touch on the topics/response I have not. So....Good Answer....Good Question!