Great article - I have recently been talking to and spending time my "ex" again, although I really hate using this term. Even after 2 years of being apart, I never stopped loving him, and "ex" holds such a negative connotation, but for practical purposes only, we will say "ex". Anwyay, while us being apart may have been goodfor some reasons, I feel we broke up for less than reasonable reasons.


Our biggest problem was that I he didn't want to spend a lot of time with meor do a lot of the things I wanted to do.Really, it's nota terrible problem to have... someone loving another person so much that they want to spend as much time with them as possible. On the other end, I could have been more creative and patient and not taken it so personally. I was more about him than me. In retrospect, the fact that I love, trust and respect him more than anyone else I've ever known (and I'm 30 now) is much more important that a relatively small issue that could have been worked though had we communicated a bit more effectively.


It is too soon to tell if we will enter back into a committed relationship or "end up together", but I have every hope we could, and I'm simplygratefulto be givena second chance.


Thanks for writing this article. I hope it will help someone else not make the samemistake that I made and had to learn the hard way.