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Hhmm...if you're always trying to be the "knight in shining armor" and you like it, that tells me quite a lot about you, your ideas about relationships and the women you are likely to date. It suggests that you see yourself in a "savior" role, one that requires women to be either dependent on you, needy, or otherwise having some issue where they are not able to manage their own personal and mental well-being. Thus, you view women (or at least those you seek out) to be less than you, in other words, weak creatures who NEED you, who need to be saved and protected. Sure, many women end up in places such as this in the course of their lives. Unfortunately, its at those times that they really should not be dating.
Perhaps you need to reframe what it is you really like about yourself and value in a relationship. Now, it seems like you value relationships based on inequality, where you have the upper hand. I wonder if you were to re-think relationships and realize that healthy ones generally are based on equality and partnership (not saving someone), you might have better luck. Ask yourself what you really want out of a relationship. Also ask yourself why you think you only deserve relationships such as these. (I'm positive you deserve better!)
You may also want to ask yourself, what is it truly about seeing yourself as "knight in shining armour" that you particularly value. I'm going to guess that you like to be a caring, nice, compassionate person. That's great!  Those are all great qualities to possess and excellent traits to bring to a relationship. However, you can be caring, nice, compassionate and wonderful without needing to be in relationships that require you to feel like you need to "save" the women. Of course they're going to leave you after awhile...as soon as they get their lives back together and you no longer have a role to fill as the "knight" not only will you start to feel unappreciated but they will not need or want that behavior any longer and likely get rid of you.
I think there is hope for you; don'tdespair Good luck finding that wonderful person!
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