Perhaps a renegotiation of the relationship is in order. There is a good book “the dawn of sex” that theorizes and presents evidence that our ancestors were not monogamous. Monogamy appears to be a religious mandate that almost all cultures have adopted and perhaps it warrants revisiting….and what is jealousy anyway? and honest look will uncover it is just fear turned outward. Why would you not want your spouse to have sex with someone else? Down deep it is probably because of your own insecurities and you don’t want them leaving you or someone else. Really look. We don’t do this with any other activity. Tennis for example. It is probably ok for your spouse to play tennis with anyone. What if you ignored the concept of fear and were whole and complete yourself? Then would it matter if your spouse had sex with someone else? of course not. Safety concerns aside (and appropriate measures can be made there).

ASG’s comment above is a perfect example of how we let religious dogma and or cultural BS run our lives. Some are so committed to dogma that they will shot themselves in the head (or how ever he did it). What if they could have gotten the fear/jealously concept I discussed above. They both could have been happy (maybe even stayed married…if everyone could have dealt with their own shit … instead of making the other wrong). This is basic basic personal development concepts.

LET GO of your conditioning. You don’t have to be a slave to it anymore. Your attachment to it is LEARNED and you have been BRAINWASHED. Simple logic and deduction will show you that!

ASG: I am sorry about your loss. I would not blame this on his actions. I would advise you to look at your own issues as in the end that’s all there is. Forgiveness is a wonderful tool….so is not taking anything personally.