Tips for Breaking that Dating Dry Spell

Down on your luck date-wise? Check out these eHarmony Advice tips for breaking a dating dry spell.

Tips to Break a Dating Dry Spell
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Does it feel like centuries since you’ve experienced those fabulous first-date butterflies? If you are in the midst of a dry spell that rivals L.A.’s most severe drought, we’re ready to quench your thirst and bring you back into the dating mix with these tips!

Practice Self-Love

This is key advice for us all. The more time you invest in your own happiness and well-being – whether it’s reading self-help books, meditating or reciting mantras – the more others will be drawn to your positive energy. Incorporate self-love practices into your daily life, and try to be grateful for all the people, places and things that surround you. Let go of disappointments, try to see problems as opportunities for growth and trust that the universe will take care of the rest. Positive thinking really does equal positive results.

Make the Friend Connection

Your new love could be within just two degrees of separation. Don’t be afraid to tell your pals that you are ready to revisit the dating scene (they probably are more aware of this fact than you know!). Let the people close to you help out by setting up a dinner party or casual barbecue with some contenders whom they feel may be a possible love connection.

Join eHarmony

Not that we are biased (!), but the proof is in the blessed statistics: More than 200 weddings currently take place each day for couples who met and began dating through eHarmony.

Play Fetch With Fido

Pets are not only great for companionship, but they’re also a wonderful way to meet new friends at the park. Dogs are people magnets and conversation starters, and they’ll also increase your awareness profile around the neighborhood.

Ready, Set, Run!

Your local workout facility is a fantastic place to meet new, health-conscious friends and possibly even that special someone. Whether it’s in spinning class or during yoga, familiar faces help open the door to conversation and maybe more. Namaste!

Meet at the Market

Chance encounters often occur while browsing through the produce section. Your local grocery store is not only a casual atmosphere but a fairly easy place to start up conversation, whether it’s about favorite salad dressings or whether an avocado is ready for transformation into guacamole. Plus, peeking into someone’s cart can give you a good sense of what they’re about.

Greet the Locals

Get to know what neighborhood haunts people are frequenting. The corner bakery, café or coffeehouse can provide good java and be a recipe for romance as well. Church is another avenue for connecting with those who hold similar beliefs and values.

Go Clubbing

No, not the Night at the Roxbury, Will Ferrell kind of clubs. Look for classy spots or cool jazz lounges where mature adults usually go to socialize and unwind. Tip: Bring a few friends if you are a bit bashful.

The moral of this dating advice story: Put some effort into yourself and a little energy into the outside world, and you’ll be surprised by who may be right around the corner!

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Church? Yeah right. Of all the times I've been there, I've never seen any unmarried/non-engaged women between the ages of 20 and 60.
All the single guys I knew my age told me the same thing, and all the single girls said the same. Guess either neither one was going frequently enough to see the other or both sexes were blind. In the case of the men who said it to me, I think they would at least have enough tact to not complain to [I]me[/I] about it. As they did not, I didn't bother to point out there was one standing right in front of them. Kidding aside, if you find a church that you like and get to know people there, even if there are no eligible single women that appeal to you, you may make some connections with people who can fix you up with the right one. That's what happened with my sister.

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These tips seem very America-focussed. Nothing wrong with that, but it does make them inapplicable to the international readership. Dating in America seems to me to be very different from dating here at least (I'm in Scotland). Not that I've ever dated in America. Actually, I haven't dated in this century [IMG]http://advice-static.eharmony.com/library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-frown.gif[/IMG] but certainly the impression I get from American TV, the internet and talking to people is that 'dating' is quite different in my country. In America, dating seems to be a 'thing', something like a hobby. Single people are on 'the dating scene' and this scene has rules and expectations. If a guy asks a girl out for coffee, it's a 'date' and both sides know it, and there are certain rules to follow, almost like a game. Or a guy could just meet a girl in a bookstore (for example) and ask her to dinner, and that's socially acceptable. Here though, it is an absolute 'must not do'. You [I]never[/I] approach someone in a shop, street, park or whatever. Whereas this article advocates 'hanging around places of interest', doing so here would likely result in a visit from the police and accusations of harrassing customers. At best, the women would just walk away annoyed. People only 'date' once they've decided they want to be in a relationship with each other. The whole thing of girls going on a date with a guy they just met is quite alien here - I've only known two girls to do that, and they were both Polish. If a guy knows a girl and is attracted to her, and asks her coffee sometime and she says yes, it means either she wants a relationship or has no interest in him and gets offended at the unwanted interest. Dating here is something people do once they are in a relationship, rather than something people do to get to know each other.
Reese! I've been trying to figure out this cultural difference between America and Europe for some time now. I have friends in Germany, and although they say they don't date, they can't explain to me how they meet or decide to be in a relationship with someone. I've read Jane Austen, where one must be introduced and meet one another in the social scene, etc and without even spending time together unchaperoned they chose to marry. But how is it done today? How DO you meet someone? And once you have met them, how do you get to know each other well enough to choose to be in a relationship and date? If speaking with strangers isn't done, are you limited to meeting people at work, or parties and just hope that you keep seeing them at parties frequently enough to decide to date? From what I can make out of my German friends, they had groups of friends who did things together, and then a few paired off and moved in together. I think we need some European films over here to explain how it is done over there, because I am totally perplexed.

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Church? Yeah right. Of all the times I've been there, I've never seen any unmarried/non-engaged women between the ages of 20 and 60.
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