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I have not ever had a date. I am just wondering why people seem to reject me so fast. It seems like they just look at me and people don't like me. I guess most people are too closed to even think about a date. It has been 2 years now. Just wondering what I should do. All I do is be myself.

If you really loved him or wanted to be with him why not? As far as appearances go, we know men are visual more by nature and now that you are his and he is yours why not dress to please your soul mate? My ex had very different taste than me and I happily wore what she wanted me too but then again I respected her taste. She had a keen eye. To be able to see yourself as another does and to hear there opinion and accept it if it is wise and given lovingly is such a blessing in reality. Go ahead and make me over I'm yours now!

1 CORINTHIANS 7:4 "The wife does not exercise authority over her own body, but her husband does; likewise, also, the husband does not exercise authority over his own body, but his wife does."

As far as hair color I do draw the line as I personally think we should keep whatever color we was born with as it is so much healthier than constantly dyeing it. besides all that treating it leaves it anything but soft and that's what a man will care most about anyways when you both are sleeping together and your eyes are closed. Let it even go grey as long as it is healthy and soft I don't care I ain't in love with your hair but you as my wife. But if you have already been dyeing it whats the big deal. maybe it does bring out your blue eyes. Change my wardrobe too if we can afford it. Lets go shopping together and have some fun picking out what the other thinks looks becoming on one another of course with in certain modesty boundaries. Maybe you do dry clothes on the wrong setting. We guys also know how to do laundry too. This point on clothes temperature can be debated in a loving way to see who is right. I may just prefer to do my own and she can do her own but it is nice when there is a meeting of the minds. You say watch out when it is done with pretty words. Is what you call control under dictator words better? Tell me to do something as my wife in a pretty way or with pretty words and I will do my utmost to please you! Should be vice versa too. Its when it is said in a demeaning way we should be afraid of. Whats so wrong with constructive criticism? There is a few tricks and bits of wisdom to pumping gas correctly. For example you shouldn't go over the automatic shut off point just to round it up. I forgot the reason. Some people get into a relationship and believe they know it all already. We want to grow together and become one, on the same page and team. Don't be so sensitive. Sounds like he had a point on reading the news then watching it on tv. You get more depth and accurateness from reading then the tube. Well the point about not doing it again can be taken 2 ways. I did see that movie sleeping with the enemy and that can really happen so please if you see a man is like that get out asap. But if you both agreed something should change and you say yes I will and then you sneak around and keep doing it around his back that's another story. It reminds me of this woman who never would eat junk food in front of her husband or indulge in gluttony but as soon as he went to sleep she was eating all kinds of junk and now this day she has reaped what she sowed and has all kinds of health problems and way over weight. Just what her husband was trying to prevent. I bet she wish she would of listen to him now.

This is kinda why I am scared of getting in a relationship because what I think is a little thing that a wife could do she makes it into I am trying to control her or change her. What is so wrong about doing or changing for the one you are going to try and build a life around. It is a 2 way street too. When I was first married and at the breakfast table she got irritated at the way I smacked my mouth having a bowl of cerial with milk. Living alone I never was conscious about that but she was right and I tried to change for her and for manners sake. It was hard I just wish she was a kinder lady and not so bossy as it then would of been easier to take. We all will have to make adjustments to pleae each other. I say if is possible why not especially if you see the wisdome in it. I also say during the dating phase you reveal as much as possible you would like to adjust before marriage and none of this belief I will change them after marriage. A big one with me is I try to change maybe a womans diet if it is harmful to her and I learned that thats a no no too. So I need to find someone who'cares deeply what she puts in her body at the get go.