Nice Guys or Bad Boys - Who Do You Love?

Women say they want a nice guy, but do they mean it? It seems that too often women pass up a perfectly good guy and go for the bad boy instead. Whether your type is mean, married, or emotionally unavailable, you can break the cycle of dating bad boys! Brought to you by Christian Carter

Nice Guys or Bad Boys - Who Do You Love?
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You're about to spend the most useful 5 minutes you've ever spent on improving your future love life. There’s some homework I want you to do that will absolutely improve your natural ability to read into a man's behavior and his mind and could mean the difference between being...

HAPPY and IN LOVE. or LONELY and SINGLE

Right now, I’m going to ask you to take 5 minutes to yourself, tune out the rest of the world, and think about these few important questions:

1. What is it about “bad boys” or men who aren't “available” that is attractive to women? And to you?

2. Have you ever dated a guy even though you knew he was a “bad boy?”

3. Is there a “nice guy” in your life who would make a great companion, but you're not attracted to or share a “connection” with?

Take a minute and think about these. Don't cheat yourself. It’s AMAZING what you learn about yourself and the world when you take just a few minutes to reflect. Ok, let's share our thoughts and compare notes. So...I'm going to address the last question first about “nice guys.”

The Problem With Nice Guys

I don’t actually think there's anything wrong with the fact that women are often attracted to “bad boys.” The truth is that you might “like” a nice guy, but you don't feel that powerful GUT-LEVEL ATTRACTION for “nice guys.” Ironically, even if a man is nice but you don’t feel that attraction for him – doing all the sweet things of pursuing you, doting on you and trying to spend time with you actually makes you feel LESS interested. A woman might “like it” when a nice guy does nice things, but it doesn't make her feel ATTRACTED to that man. Well, guess what? It works the same way for “nice women.” Being a “nice girl” can't “convince” a guy to like you or want you just because you do sweet things and are overly accommodating. In fact, it can actually “kill” any attraction that may have been there.

What Draws Women To Bad Boys

You might not see it yet, but women often unconsciously feel that magical emotion called ATTRACTION for men who have the behavior and traits of a “bad boy.” Of course, I don't believe that men have to be jerks to make women feel attraction with them. The truth is “bad boys” often create inviting and intoxicating forms of drama - often perceived as playfulness, sexuality and fun. And it’s often the inherent UNPREDICTABLE nature of a “bad boy” that becomes so fascinating and addicting to want to be around.

Women have a deep attraction mechanism that's triggered by men who behave indifferently, have high status, know lots of women, and the list of “bad” behavior goes on. You probably know from experience that the chemistry and connection with a “bad boy” can be incredibly thrilling, even if you’re miserable when it comes to a relationship. The magic of that exhilarating connection with a man can be extremely powerful, and more than enough to “overrule” the conscious thoughts you might have of “this guy isn’t good for me.” Women picking and staying with the wrong men is the single biggest mistake I see women make. It's the most common reason why the thousands of women I hear from can't find the love and fulfillment they're looking for.

But there's help...

I talk about these and other concepts in detail in my book, Catch Him And Keep Him. If you’re ready, you could learn more in a few hours going through my book than most women learn in years of struggle trying to figure out how to meet and attract men the right man.

If you’re ready to know the right steps to develop an amazing relationship with a man, and you’re clear that it’s time to move past the patterns of attracting the wrong men into you life, then I strongly recommend checking out my book, and reading my best free tips I send out weekly.

You can find it all here at my website: catchhimandkeephim.com

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

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i would like to go on the record as saying this 'bad boy seeker' has been dating a 'nice guy" now for almost a year and we just moved in together. I have never been happier, or more in love, or more satisfied in bed ever in my life. So, nice guys may or may not finish last, but he is my LAST and the last one is the only one that counts.

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I honestly can say that I DO prefer the "nice" guys. "Bad" boys need to grow, regardless of age. Sadly, the "nice" ones I've met I could NOT DATE simply because of an age-difference (more than 10 years) Otherwise, it prob would have been marriage-material in a heartbeat! :[ And I have dated a couple "bad" ones. But only briefly. They are tiresome, boring, and having too many "issues" to handle a REAL adult relationship. God-----is there any age-appropriate "nice" guy out there anywhere???? LOL
- February 10, 2009 06:27 PM

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Personally I like good guys but most of the time he is married, gay, dead, or afraid to approach you for whatever reason. All I ask for is one decent guy and I can not even find that! Where's the article about "Good Guys who like Bad Women". It's usually bad guys who like good women. I do not have the time nor patience for them.
I'm sorry but when I read this I had to laugh. Good guys are either married, gay, dead, or afraid to approach you. First of all if he's dead, he can't approach you. Some guys that are married ARE dead, they just don't know it yet! "Can't stand that guy, he's gay, and his friend isn't any better, he's dead". Hmmmm.... There will never be any articles about good men that like bad women. There may be some articles about good men that like dead women! ARC, Kerry
- January 29, 2009 02:00 AM

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