“I've never been married, though I was engaged once back in college ...but that ended back in 2001. I'll be completing my masters Dec. 2008. While I'd like to complete my ten years where I'm working at now (after I graduate it'll only be 2.5 years left)... for the right guy, I'd be willing to move before then.”
“I like to think of myself as mellow and friendly. I have solid priorities but respect people of all backgrounds. I've always been proud of the fact that I count among my friends conservatives, liberals, republicans, democrats. The variety can be a little challenging but also extremely rewearding. I feel very blessed!”
“A curious introvert. I've been around the world on mission trips and for work, but most weekends I prefer to sit home with my cats, a cup of coffee and a good book. I've worked as an Interpreter for the deaf in public schools, a robotics programmer, and a janitor. I absolutely hated English in school but now I write (one book of poetry finished and one fantasy novel looking for a publisher/agent.) I'm not good at creating art but I do appreciate it.”
Should you stay or should you go? If you are on the fence about whether or not your relationship is working, consider the top three reasons why couples decide to split.
“I don’t know what to do,” Jennifer said. “I like Greg a lot and we have our fun moments, but something doesn’t feel right.” Sound familiar? We hear this kind of statement on a regular basis from persons entering the foggy bog of uneasiness about their relationship. Jennifer and Greg had been dating for nearly eight months when she confessed, “I can’t tell if it’s worth it or not.” If you’ve ever wondered the same thing, we want to help you cut through the nebulous emotions and see your condition more clearly.
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There are probably countless reasons why couples split, but in a study asking more than 150 dating couples who had just broken up to write an anonymous essay on “why we broke up,” three reasons appeared again and again. Desire for autonomy topped the list. Some men (27%) and many women (44%) complained of feeling trapped by their dating partner. “He was upset whenever I went out with friends,” one woman wrote, “even if I couldn’t have been with him at that time because of his obligations.” One man said, “I felt like a possession.” Most people want intimacy and connection in a dating relationship, but not at the price of reasonable freedom.
I agree so much with the first listed reason in this article. There is nothing worse than having someone cling to you so much that you can't turn around without bumping into that person. I think this has a lot to do with insecurity on the clingy person's part. That's a big turn off.
I have been with this guy going on 3 yrs but i feel he is'nt understanding me anymore like i am just here and thats all it is i am in love with him but i am so tired of feeling all alone all the time i am scared that if i leave i will not have a place to go what should i do?
When you relise that there is nothing that ou want to save, it sure is time to go. Just think when you wee young teenagers and you thught the hunk in th magazin was your never dieing true love. He wasn't. Nor was the person you hitched up with. Well, realise it is not altogether their falt, either and it takes two to tango. But nobody wants to go out dancing these days.you were constantly nvolved n crushes at school and what did school do to gide you through this highly impressionable period of your life. S.F.A., of course. You are all victims of a naion thiving on hapy smoke and pill popprs. What could you expect? Bars of "Tru Love" to be coming in the window. I can promise you they won't. It is over. How can you keep that spuse back in the kitchen after she's seen Maxim's? Pure impossibility. Don't try.
It would be tryly wondeful and highly mature if you could remain friendly after the split. Thee is only bitterness to b gained from hatred. You might evn becom casual lovers and realise that this is the way it should have been for you all long. But do not force it. I personally believe it is below the dignity of everyman to stoop as low as a woman will go. So evn if sh does, keep your head high. don't harbour any festering hatred towards her for whil you do you are separating yourself from living and giving her the carte blanche to be winner. There are things in life you can do. Join a sports club. attend aa gallery lecture, thy get advertised in the classifids. Just something to do without letting yourself get bogged down.
Find yourself a mistress or even a lover. Make this separation work for you, your way.
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