How Far Should I Go For Long Distance Love?

I dont think that time spent together is everything!!! Its impractical to do that in long distant relationships..I think meeting a couple of times should suffice. It is not impossible to get to know someone over the phone or via emails..its about being honest and opening up to each other....understanding each others values and expectations..nobody is perfect so there maybe certain little things u discover after commitment but that cant be a deal breaker if you have an intense liking for each other. You have to listen to your little voice in your heart!!!

Long-Distance Relationships: Eliminate the Lacuna

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Do not rule out a long-distance relationship. There is obvious difficulty in interstate or international dating, but it is not insuperable. If you live in Colorado and your man is in Texas, there is a present difficulty that may prevent the consummation of a stable and progressive relationship. Love, however, has no borders. As long as relocation is a flexible option geographical distance should be a bridgeable problem. The man for you often does not live down the street.

It is much better to have a loving long-distance relationship than to stay stuck in an irredeemably unsatisfactory in-town relationship. You might have to weigh today’s provisional convenience against tomorrow’s boundless delight and joy. It is alright, therefore, to determine early in the relationship what you want out of it, a weekend associate for dinners and dancing or a prospective spouse. If it is the latter, consider whether relocation presently will be a viable and attainable option for either of you.[/b]

The rigid fact, however, is that long-distance relationships are as challenging to a couple as the forceful challenges that confront such relationships. The distance factor easily can weaken the attraction pull. French physicist, Charles Augustin de Coulomb [1736-1806] postulated that the greater the charge between two objects, the greater the resulting force of attraction. Conversely, the greater the intervening distance between them, the smaller the resulting force of attraction. His work on electrostatic forces shows that the force of attraction or repulsion inversely is proportional to the square of the distance between the two charges and directly proportional to their result. Thus the greater the intervening distance between charges, the smaller the resulting force of attraction.

The functional principle here is that two charged objects always will generate a force on each other, but the greater the intervening distance between them, the smaller the resulting force of attraction. This principle immediately has analogous relevance to the dynamics of love and romance, in which the absence of effective communication interposes an unwelcome intervening gap in the relationship. To be sure, a romantic relationship withers as the intervening distance expands.

The intervening gap may result from a number of causes. The gap widens when the relationship is starved of direct contact and progressive nurture. The absence of intimacy or physical interaction, for example, widens the gap. The distance intervention also may arise from infidelity, distrust, miscommunication, hostility, unnecessary rancor, and other generations of conflict and discord. Thus between two people who dynamically are attracted to each other, the love-pull must be sustained and nourished, or the relationship will wither from malnourishment and neglect. The forces of energy and matter, therefore, suggest and recommend that two love mates must close in and disallow intervening gaps in their relationship. In love and romance, closeness certainly has the dynamic potential and momentum to displace discord and foster harmony.

The conclusion then is that the bonding process between two people arises from the mutual emission and absorption of energy and momentum. Conversely, the entropic absence or decline of energy and momentum, symbolized by the dearth of passion and active romance, necessarily leads to a withered or withering relationship. In any event it is within the power and competence of the persons involved in a relationship to salvage and reinvigorate the bond, if it is worth salvaging. A relationship may not be worth saving if trust, the sustaining basis of unity, is completely destroyed.

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