'Green Flags': What Do You Want in a Partner?

Forget about red flags. Find out what members of the Advice community are looking for in their love matches!

'Green Flags': What Do You Want in a Partner?
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What do you want in a partner? Instead of focusing on negative attributes to be aware of -- what are the great qualities you are searching for? Here are our favorite and fantastic "green flags" the Advice community wrote about:

bravethestorm writes:

1. Eye contact when you talk
2. Gentle touch
3. Makes you laugh/shared sense of humor
4. Shared interests
5. Willing to compromise
6. Thoughtful
7. Romantic
8. Kind in words and actions "just because"
9. Takes concern in how you feel or what you want
10. Makes you a priority in their life
11. Similar values and/or mutual respect of differences

JDavid's list:

1. Thought and intelligence evident in what is presented
2. Effective communication (clarity, proper capitalization, punctuation, spelling)
3. Avoidance of tired / trite clichés, sayings, expressions
4. Positive outlook (and lack of negative comments or attitudes)
5. Clear, dated, representative and appealing photograph
6. Information about activities and interests (that parallel mine)
7. Indication of balance in life (absence of obsession)
8. Emphasis on important life issues with a partner rather than entertainment or frivolity

CreolePrincess writes:

1. Is nice to animals, children and the elderly
2. Answers questions easily and asks questions in return
3. Respect personal boundaries
4. Is able to laugh at self
5. Is law abiding
6. Geniune smile
7. Treats others with dignity and respect

What are your must-have qualities in a mate? What single attribute is the most important to you?

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I love your avatars name. Can our Avatars date? Ok my answers: I'm looking for a money hungry, inconsiderate, shallow (must be shallow!) materialistic, unathletic, lazy, shiftless, gossipping, beady eyed, thief, bearded, bald headed, pot bellied, either very short or very tall (3-4 feet or 7-8 foot tall) unwashed skank who wears bedbug infested clothes thrown out by homeless men. Oh man I'm gonna hurl. So Santa, can ya deliver the goods? Also she must beat up large cats, pick up and throw small dogs, scare birds and run after squirrels. Must be monolingual or speak soley in some arbitrary odd language (Uzbekastan would be perfect.) Hand gestures & out of control nervous systems ok. Falling down at random moments would be perfect. Basically if you are broken down, we want you! Must be at least 75 years old to even be considered. Must have resided in a mental institution for at least two years minimum. Oh and you must hate sex. That ought a do it. Did I forget anything? Red flag-you actually like sex. Oh man, that would be a total turnoff!
1. Smiles a lot 2. eye contact 3. is courteous and doesn't use profanity 4. laughs easily 6. articulate 7. can carry a conversation 8. positive outlook 9. clean 10 attractive
- November 21, 2009 12:52 AM

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"Gi you got girlfriend in Vietnam? Fifteen dollas." Lol oh man you killed me with that answer Harv!
[B][COLOR=navy]The Ability to suck a golf ball through 20 feet of Garden Hose![/COLOR][/B] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=navy]Harvey7.[/COLOR][/FONT]:cool:
- November 21, 2009 12:38 AM

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I have lowered my expectations and I am willing to make do / settle on... perfect.
- November 20, 2009 11:36 PM

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