Flirting: How to Get the Girl Without Playing Games

Okay guys, listen up. Want to improve your overall game in 2008? Success is easier than you think—and you don’t have to be a player to score a girl’s digits. But you do need to master the fine art of the initial approach, a.k.a. first-impression flirting.

Flirting: How to Get the Girl Without Playing Games
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Okay guys, listen up. Want to improve your overall game in 2008? Success is easier than you think—and you don’t have to be a player to score a girl’s digits. But you do need to master the fine art of the initial approach, a.k.a. first-impression flirting. If that’s not your strong suit, don’t stress. The truth is, it’s not about delivering a killer line or perfecting a suave smile that makes the girl weak in the knees. To make a lasting (positive) first impression, all you need is a relaxed confidence when you approach and the ability to sustain genuine interest in what she has to say. For more tips on how to master first impression flirting, read on...

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Confidence is key
When approaching a woman, confidence is essential. Instead of over-thinking what you’re going to say or how she’s going to react, your focus should be on embodying your most confident self. That means good posture, eye contact, and a relaxed (not forced or smarmy) smile. Once you’ve approached, maintain that eye contact, relax your smile, and just say hi. If she smiles and says hi back, she’s giving you permission to talk to her. If she gives you attitude/the cold shoulder, don’t return the bad mojo. Instead, remain your confident self as you walk past her and look for someone else to approach. After all, you never know if she has a cute friend who may be more receptive to you. If you’re a jerk, her friend will never give you the time of day. If you’re cool, you may just leave Attitude Girl wishing she’d given you a shot when she sees you with her gal pal.

Be yourself (don’t be a player)
In 2008, women are savvy enough to recognize when they’re being played. And while there’s plenty of evidence that The Game works for confidence-challenged guys looking to cultivate a player persona, you don’t need to rely on gimmicks to get a girl’s attention. Instead, just be yourself. Your most confident, smart, understatedly sexy self, of course! Women dig a guy who’s comfortable in his own skin, and isn’t afraid to approach a woman he’s interested in. Again, it’s not a clever line that’s going to rock her world. If she gives you the green light to approach and talk to her, initiate a light/friendly conversation and just be yourself!

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Be yourself. The mystic Ram Dass said, “If you learn tricks, you will be a caterpillar that flies. But you will not be a butterfly.”
[COLOR=Navy]However...the mystic Dum Azz says, "If you are boring someone you hope to date, find some creativity in your cocoon".[/COLOR] ;)
- September 27, 2009 06:25 AM

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I believe you. My dad said that he knew my mom was the one when she could take on all 7 of his brothers and sisters and their somewhat caustic wit and come out on top. Maybe I'm looking for that, maybe I've just watched too many old romantic comedies where no one was ever at a loss for words.
We must have watched the same old movies. For me personally, I love humor and I couldn't be happy with someone if they were all serious and down all of the time. Those are the kinds of people that end up being the lead story on the evening news. Find someone that makes you laugh (at the right time of course)
- September 26, 2009 09:22 PM

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Be yourself. The mystic Ram Dass said, “If you learn tricks, you will be a caterpillar that flies. But you will not be a butterfly.”
- September 25, 2009 07:28 PM

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