“I've never been married, though I was engaged once back in college ...but that ended back in 2001. I'll be completing my masters Dec. 2008. While I'd like to complete my ten years where I'm working at now (after I graduate it'll only be 2.5 years left)... for the right guy, I'd be willing to move before then.”
“I like to think of myself as mellow and friendly. I have solid priorities but respect people of all backgrounds. I've always been proud of the fact that I count among my friends conservatives, liberals, republicans, democrats. The variety can be a little challenging but also extremely rewearding. I feel very blessed!”
“A curious introvert. I've been around the world on mission trips and for work, but most weekends I prefer to sit home with my cats, a cup of coffee and a good book. I've worked as an Interpreter for the deaf in public schools, a robotics programmer, and a janitor. I absolutely hated English in school but now I write (one book of poetry finished and one fantasy novel looking for a publisher/agent.) I'm not good at creating art but I do appreciate it.”
Everything I Need to Know About Love I Learned from Oldies Radio
Oldies radio provides us with the best love lessons life has to offer. Check out what you can learn from tunes of yore, then add your favorite one to our list.
Did you ever turn on the oldies station and feel like those classic songs were describing your current love life perfectly? That’s probably because as you were growing up, no matter what generation you grew up in, these songs taught you how to love. From early rock and roll to Motown to classic girl groups, these songs teach us so much about what love is, how much it hurts when it goes wrong, and how we can get it right.
Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow?
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One of the greatest rock ballads of all time, this song (penned by Carole King and Gerry Goffin, and performed by the Shirelles) captures the complex miasma of emotions that entangle yet distinguish lust and love. “Is this a lasting treasure, or just a moment’s pleasure?” the singer asks of her beau as they get misty-eyed in the moonlight. “Can I believe the magic in your sighs? Will you still love me tomorrow?” (even if I give you what you want tonight). A warning to hormonally charged teens everywhere, this song cautions that physical chemistry may or may not lead to deeper love down the road.
The Tracks of My Tears
Smokey Robinson had a way of making a sad song sound glad. But just like the gloom behind the Miracles’ shining vocals, behind the façade of the character in this song lies a sad, broken-hearted man. Anyone who’s ever been dumped by someone they really loved and tried to pretend to be fine when they saw their ex in public knows the ritual he’s going through. We laugh, we smile, we go on ridiculous rebound dates with the first eligible people we run across. Outside, we’re masquerading, but inside our hopes are fading. It’s a theme Robinson would take to No. 1 years later with “Tears of a Clown.”
Save the Last Dance for Me
Love is not about possession, and nobody understood that more than this song’s co-creator, Doc Pomus. A victim of polio who used crutches to get around, he still enjoyed going out with his wife, a Broadway performer and dancer, and it wasn’t a problem if she wanted to dance with other men—as long as she’d never “give her heart to anyone” and made sure to save her true love for him at the end of the night. This song teaches us about the tender love that happens at home that’s only enhanced by freedom outside the home. And as performed by Ben E. King and the Drifters, it actually makes for great slow dancing.
I was raised in the 50/60's and with 2 older siblings, I got into music early. I even like some 40's music. Songs made during the war that my parents enjoyed. Sentimental Journey was my parents song and I always think of them when I hear it. My husband and I--our song was Unchained Melody. We also loved Time in a Bottle. One he always sang to me was the 'Use me up' song. I always laughed when he sang it. It was something about keep on using me til you use me up. The basis of the song had nothing to do with us, it was just that phrase--well I used him up and lost him almost 2 years ago. I played his/our favorite songs at his funeral. He was a rock and roll guy, so many of those songs I cherish because of our time together. He knew Conway Twitty was my favorite singer so every time I entered a room or he saw me at the end of the day--when I walked in the door--he'd 'growl' 'Hello Darlin'. So many of those songs play well into relationships. I'm so glad I grew up then--life was simpler (maybe because we were growing up and didn't have the stresses our parents had). I have Ghost onDVR and when Unchained Melody plays and that scene with Patrick and Demi--it just tears me up.
I can relate to a lot of lyrics especially in the old tunes. I love Beatles, Elton John, Bee Gees, Van Morrison. Alot of their songs have meaning in my life. Plus I can understand what they are saying
I got thinking about another oldie this morning.
It was a one-hit wonder (by The Shields) and the lyrics began with: "YOU CHEATED--YOU LIED--YOU SAID THAT YOU LOVED ME...!"
I'm amazed the song hasn't been re-recorded since practically everybody who has dated in vain can relate to it?
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