Breaking the Gender Stereotype

New gender research has shaken up the world of sexual stereotypes. It's time to reexamine all those traditional ideas and see what science has uncovered. The old view that "men want sex more than women" may be headed for the dust bin of history. See for yourself.

Breaking the Gender Stereotype
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There is an old notion that men want sex more than women. Does this still apply today? 

In one study, men and women strangers were asked to interact with one another, while another cross-gender pair observed. Compared to women, men who were either interacting or observing rated those who were interacting as being more sexually oriented (Abbey, 1982). What men thought was sexual intent, women thought was friendly. Repeated findings like these led researchers to believe that men were more interested and motivated by sex compared to women.

In a recent issue of PSPB, however, Alison Lenton and colleagues found that both men and women projected their own sexual feelings onto others. Those who were highly sexually motivated, both men and women, saw others as being highly sexually motivated; while those who were low in sexual motivation saw others as being similarly low in sexual motivation (Lenton et al., 2007). In other words, if I was interested in sex, I assumed you were interested too. These findings were especially true when others were similar to themselves or when there was little information to go on.

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Instead of rating in line with the sexual stereotype of men wanting sex more, the current findings show that men and women project their own feelings onto both men and women equally. Although the researchers suggest complexity of similarity may explain these findings, another explanation may be that stereotypical differences in sexual desire are not as prevalent as they once were, especially among younger adults as assessed in this sample. If we weren’t given enough information and didn’t believe in old stereotypes, then we might have relied on what we thought when making decisions about others.

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New? Human beings have been around a lot longer than Scientific research.

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Amen sister.
Unlike some of you here I cannot speak for what all women want or what all men want or even most women or most men. I can speak for myself, however. I like sex. I like a lot of sex. I like it when the man I am with likes sex as much as myself. I have had a few boy friends that I practically had to rape to get them to have sex with me. This is no fun and I cannot imagine what a married life would be like with a guy with a low libido, aside from very, very frustrating. As to worrying what guys may or may or not think about my sexual past: that is 100% there problem not mine. I will in a very few years have a good paying job and will be completely financially independent. I don't plan on needing or wanting a guy to look after me; I don't need a man to feel complete. So he can leave his hangups at the front door. I would not want to partner with any guy who divides women into "Madonnas/whores".

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Not desiring sex as much just because you don't show interest? I don't "show interest" because I don't want to necessarily give the impression that I want it with that person. I can be attracted to someone and might want to have sex with them but I know its in my and everyones best interests if I don't. Sure as hell hasn't made me desire it any less!
I was more referring to women who actually feel ashamed of sex, like it is a sin or bad. These women suppress their desire, consciously or unconsciously. It clearly does not apply to all women. I think most modern women, exposed to sex in the media have started to accept their sexually more. They still may hide their sexuality, but they don't feel bad (or as bad) about being sexual beings. I have seen how different cultures and different generations within those cultures have dealt with that, and have noticed clear patterns, all directly related to what they were taught about sex. I have seen some generations within certain cultures use sex as a weapon against the men. Most women in this generation think sex as something men wants, and use sex to control their man. Then I notice other cultures on the other side of the world, where the women are taught that their role as a wife is to please their man sexually, and are expected to please their man any time he wants. These are obviously the two extremes. And then you have some cultures in the tropics where the women openly display sexuality and their culture values the sexuality of the woman. Then you have the current college age generation in some cultures that have totally separated sex from love and actively engage in sex for sex's sake. Now all of these are stereotypes and obviously do not apply to everyone in those cultures (which is why I did not name the cultures), but it goes to show you that sexually varies greatly by group, mostly by what they are taught is acceptable and not acceptable. I think that deep down, men and women both have the capability to desire sex as much as each other, just like you said, and as long as they do not suppress their natural desires, a man and woman's desire for sex can be the same. (I say can because all men and women are different and medical reasons, emotional reasons, religious & cultural beliefs, etc. may get in the way in specific cases.)
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