“I've never been married, though I was engaged once back in college ...but that ended back in 2001. I'll be completing my masters Dec. 2008. While I'd like to complete my ten years where I'm working at now (after I graduate it'll only be 2.5 years left)... for the right guy, I'd be willing to move before then.”
“I like to enjoy the finer things in life with my special lady. I like to travel, I like the outdoors, fishing, boating ( I can sail and power boat etc ). I like films and trivia, an expert at Jeopardy etc. I enjoy cooking, and fine food. I am an excellent photographer, I also have been published as a writer, in major magazines.”
We’ll admit it right up front: single people don’t always have it easy. When it seems as though the entire world is coupled up, life can seem a little lonely. And let’s not even get into the holidays.
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But it doesn’t have to be all bad if you look at the upside. Your time as a single person is very valuable if you use it correctly and keep a positive attitude. Getting down about living the single life? Don’t. Here are five reasons you should embrace it.
1) You Can Do Whatever You Want
This outlook may seem juvenile, but never underestimate how liberating it is to do whatever you want whenever you want. Have the chance to go on a last-minute trip to Mexico? Hit the museum first thing on Sunday? Go for it.
Look at your singlehood as an opportunity to explore all of the things you’ve always wanted to do. Try a new hobby or pick up one that you’ve lost along the way.
2) There’s Opportunity for Personal Growth
Rather than viewing it as a curse, think of being single as an opportunity to focus completely on you. This is really a gift in disguise: the chance to reflect on your past and think about what you really want out of the future. Also, you’ll figure out what you like, dislike and can’t stand, which will make you a better mate when Mr. or Ms. Right does come along. (And they will)
3) There’s a Sense of Adventure
With a significant other, most people avoid certain situations that have the potential to jeopardize the relationship. For example, a single man or woman may spend an evening at a nightclub with friends and come home at 4 a.m. In a committed relationship, that behavior probably wouldn’t fly too often.
As a singleton, you should embrace the fun and adventure of it all. Don’t get us wrong; being in a relationship is fun and adventurous too, but in an entirely different way.
4) You Can Build your Friendships
Do you know the cliché about the friend who disappears from their social circle as soon as they enter into a relationship? It’s clichéd because it happens. Singletons generally spend more time with their friends than those in committed relationships. If you are single, this is a good time to connect with your friends, reconnect with old friends and make new ones.
5) You Can Focus on Your Career
While we aren’t advocating that you spend every waking minute of your life at the office, being single does give you the opportunity to focus on your career. Without commitments or distractions, you can put all of your energy toward getting that promotion you’ve been lusting after or taking classes so that you can switch jobs. It might not seem like much of a consolation at the time, but all of those late nights will pay off in the long run.
I would love to meet someone to share my life with but if it doesn't happen I am okalone too. I have a full life, friends and loved ones. I think it's important to like yourself and be your own best friend first. It doesn't mean I am never lonely but even if you share your life with the most perfect person on earthyou will still feellonely now and then for many reasons....it's not the end of the world. It's all in your attitutde. [img]http://advice-static.eharmony.com/library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-cool.gif[/img]
I think this is another one of those articles designed to try to pump up single people to feel better about their situation...The truth is the majority of people who have been single for some time have already done that stuff and a million more things to lead a fufilling life...I personally have stopped reading articles like the one posted and books on "what to do when you are single" as they tend to make me feel worse not better. There are definitely advantages to being single and some days those advantages are enough...But the truth is, at least for me, is that being single is not the greatest thing since sliced bread...It is hard, it is frustrating, and a lot of times it is lonely, especially when most of your friends are married, or quickly moving toward the altar...Do I have any advice on how to cope, not really because I tend to try to get up each day and live my life to fullest, the are a lot of good days when I am just thankful for the things that I have and don't worry about what I don't have or what may be missing...However, there are the days when the whole concept is a bit overwhelming
I am 43 and single with no desire whatsoever to get married. I come from a long line of divorcees and do not intend on becoming one myself. I do not date and 90% of the people I work with are male. The other 10% which are female are of no interest because they are all either married or living alternatively. Everyone keeps telling me I need to find Mrs Right but I just laugh at them and tell them she died at birth. I, Believe it or not, am a very friendly and outgoing person to be around. I have several female friends that I keep regular contact with but I will not let it go further than friendship. I keep my zipper zipped and my bed cool. Main reason is I cannot, and WILL not trust anyone with my emotions as there is too great a risk of being destroyed by them. I also happen to love my "little bit " of money and do not want it to disappear. Forums like these are good for trying to locate the other half but there are some of us who do not need another to complete our lives. You may think that one day you will find the perfect person but trust me when I say smoke and mirrors are all that is out there. Be careful what you wish for... you may just get it.
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