5 Methods for Getting Over Your Ex

Heartbreak is never fun, but deal with your feelings in a positive way and you'll never look back on what once was.

5 Methods for Getting Over Your Ex
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Living with the memory of your ex can be a pretty painful and frustrating thing to deal with. Unfortunately, there is no magical pill or potion that can help you feel whole and normal again after you’ve experienced a painful breakup.

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Time is the only thing that will heal you completely, but there are some things you can do to speed the process along. If you’re searching high and low for ways to get over your ex, check out the five tips below for some helpful ideas.

1. Acceptance

It can be really hard to accept that you’ve lost someone you love. However, acceptance is the first step to really healing the pain that you’re feeling. Do you still call your ex, drive by his or her house, write letters or initiate contact in other ways? These types of behavior will not allow you to accept and heal the way you need to. Stop contacting your ex and make a conscious decision to move on with your own life. When it gets really tough for you to accept that you and your ex are over, never underestimate the power of ‘moving on’ songs and chocolate ice cream.

2. Call Up the Girls or Guys

Another thing that can really help you get over your ex is getting back into your social circles. Call up your friends and make plans with them – even if you don’t feel like going. This will give you a chance to catch up on the important gossip, laugh a little bit and feel a little more normal. Friends can be a really amazing source of support when you’re feeling terrible. You can also go over the details of the relationship and breakup as much as you want without having to pay an hourly fee – feedback and opinions are included.

3. Work on Improving Yourself

When you’re feeling lower than low, one of the greatest things you can do is work on improving yourself. Start a new, healthful diet to feel better about your health. Take a few classes at your local community college where you can meet new people and broaden your horizons. Go on a trip. Do things that make you feel better about yourself. Being proactive is a great way to speed up the healing and gain new self-esteem and confidence.

4. Find a Passion

Creative outlets are underrated. Try different types of art such as painting, writing, photography or something similar. This will allow you to express yourself on a deeper level, which is really great for your emotional health. You might even discover that you have a hidden talent! Participating in art calms the body and mind, allowing you to reduce the stress, frustration and pain that you’re feeling now.

5. Keep Your Sense of Humor

If you can’t laugh at yourself and your situation, you’re doomed! While heartache is not a funny subject, finding humor in the midst of all that pain is very healing. Realizing the silly mistakes you make sometimes or the hilarious situations that you get yourself into are great ways of finding the humor in your situation. Laughter is very healing and allows us hope and a sense of well-being that we need in order to move on with a happy, healthy life.

While heartache is a terrible thing to suffer through, it will get better. By utilizing the five tips above, you can feel better, take control of your life and move on!

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Sometimes, it's not the ex that is hard to get over. It's you, that person you were, the life you had that is hard to "get over".
- October 20, 2009 05:01 PM

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[QUOTE=sun_beach;275125]I think acceptance is the big key, as well. My mantra is that if the relationship isn't right for the other person, then it isn't right for me. I don't want to be in a one-way relationship. I would rather a person leave the relationship then not put 100% into it and/or be unhappy in it. That leaves you doing all the work to keep it going and salvage it. That's no good. [/QUOTE] I second this idea. It's important to realize that you can love a scorpion, but it's their nature to sting. You won't change that. If being stung is a deal breaker, then it's best to let go in spite of loving them and find someone you can truly be happy with. I think it also helps to realize you can love more than one person over a lifetime and to have your goals and priorities straight. To me there is really no blame in deciding something wasn't right for me, or them deciding something wasn't right for them. It's the right outcome either way, and I still genuinely care about that person generally even though the relationship is ending. This may seem weird to some but if the person was very special I will make a memory box and put some mementos and pictures of them in there. I will remember the good times with them now and again and that makes me smile. I don't focus on the negatives and what shouldn't be after that. I just get on with life and wish them well ... as I do myself.
- October 20, 2009 01:00 PM

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Without throwing blame... +100... So hard to do...
This worked for me.... We've had a good run and now we are...( insert laughter on both our ends of the telephone.);)
- October 19, 2009 11:37 PM

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