5 Hobbies Women Find Sexy

I didn't marry until age 34 due to a career that required a great deal of extended travel. As a result, I have a fair amount of dating experience. My dating experiences were good. I enjoyed it all because I learned so much.

Men are not as complex as you ladies make them out to be. Men are beautiful in their simplicity. Most will do just about anything to make you happy. That is their nature. Here is my advice.

To the men:

Not every woman is going to like or be impressed by what you enjoy as a hobby. However, I recommend that find a woman who is willing to try it. In turn, you should try whatever she wants to do. She may come to enjoy your hobby.......she may not. That's Ok. She will learn to respect your hobby and your passion for it. That's enough.

To the the women:

Never say NO to a new experience until you've tried it. A sense of adventure and willingness to learn means so much to men. Men love to share what they do with you. Even if the dating aspect doesn't work out with him, you'll have a new friend and your life will be fuller because of it. I cannot emphasize enough how disapppointed a man gets when he can't share his world with you. My husband loves riding his motorcycle. I'm not crazy about it, but I ride with him anyway. I've had great times on the bike not because of the bike, but because of where we've traveled and the time we've had together. Likewise, I like to dive, swim, snorkel and study Karate. He does not. Nonetheless, he will travel to dive locations with me and wait on the boat. From time to time, he'll even get into the water to snorkel with me. It's a wonderful thing to see your partner's eyes light up with joy. Give that to him.

If there’s any love lesson worth noting, it’s that sexiness has little to do with the way a person looks

Yeah, right.

Ahhh, how wonderfuly predictable. Isn't it comforting for a man to know that if he wants women to find him attractive, the best he can do is to strive to imitate as closely possible such luminaries of the male species as George Clooney, Brad Pitt, Bono, Tom Cruise, Ty Pennington, Matthew McConaughey, and Mario Lopez? Take note gentlemen: the more you allow yourself to be refashioned in the image of mass consumer culture, the more luck you'll have with the ladies. How profound! I have plenty of hobbies, detest TV, participate in sports, and in general like to stay active physically and mentally. But the men are I happen to look up to include the likes of Nelson Mandela, the Dalai Lama, and Vaclav Havel, so I guess I must be really, really lame because, after all, these guys rarely tear up the dirt on mountain bikes, get out on the field to "sweat it out" or show "how fierce a competitor" they are. Instead, they do stuff like...ummm...read and write! Paint! Do something creative! Wow, what a novel concept. Too bad for them (and for people who admire them), though - after all, being passionate about something other than developing your muscle mass or unplugging the toilet doesn't quite make the cut of the list of "5 Hobbies Women Find Sexy." I'm not suggesting for a moment that taking an active interest in sports, or being able to get your house in order are bad things. But it will be a cold day in hell before I buy into the idea that patterning oneself after a superficial pop-culture idol whose main claim to fame is a pack of rippling abs, or who makes a fetish out of giving token support to some charitable cause, will make me "sexy" in the eyes of women. It makes as much sense to advance that line of argument toward men as it would be to tell women that the best way to make themselves attractive in the eyes of the opposite sex is to style themselves on Britney Spears, Lindsay Lohan, Pamela Anderson, Paris Hilton, and Angelina Jolie. Thanks, but no thanks. What a heap of rubbish - a typical piece of drivel that defines manhood with reference to the bogus cult of hypermasculinity that pervades popular culture today.