“I've never been married, though I was engaged once back in college ...but that ended back in 2001. I'll be completing my masters Dec. 2008. While I'd like to complete my ten years where I'm working at now (after I graduate it'll only be 2.5 years left)... for the right guy, I'd be willing to move before then.”
“I like to think of myself as mellow and friendly. I have solid priorities but respect people of all backgrounds. I've always been proud of the fact that I count among my friends conservatives, liberals, republicans, democrats. The variety can be a little challenging but also extremely rewearding. I feel very blessed!”
“A curious introvert. I've been around the world on mission trips and for work, but most weekends I prefer to sit home with my cats, a cup of coffee and a good book. I've worked as an Interpreter for the deaf in public schools, a robotics programmer, and a janitor. I absolutely hated English in school but now I write (one book of poetry finished and one fantasy novel looking for a publisher/agent.) I'm not good at creating art but I do appreciate it.”
Sure, spending another gift-giving season alone can be lonely, but if you adjust your view, it can also be the greatest time of the year. No quarrels, no guilt trips—you have the freedom to do whatever you want, whenever you want and with whomever you want. If you need to be reminded about just how amazing the holidays can be when you’re solo, read on for our five top reasons why it’s great to be single this season.
Reason #1: You can Spend Time with your own Family and Friends
It’s the age-old holiday conundrum and controversial issue: which family should a couple spend the holiday with? Lucky for you, being single means you aren’t obligated to go somewhere you don’t want or have to split time or compromise between your partners family and your own.
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There are no expectations to spend the morning sipping cocoa and opening presents with your in-laws just because they live closer than your own family or because it’s their ‘turn’ this year. Take ownership of the holiday and make plans with your own friends and relatives. You’re already trying to please your own family; being single you won’t have to please a partner’s as well.
Reason #2: You can Put yourself at the Top of your List
This year, your holiday debt and anxiety will be at an all time low because there’s no need to find the perfect gift for your significant other and his or her immediate family. With no struggle over what to buy, spend a fraction of the money on a gift you’ve been eyeing for yourself or donate the funds to the charity of your choice.
Reason #3: You can Create new Traditions for Yourself
Don’t be a creature of habit. Give yourself permission to enjoy the holiday in whichever way you envision. Have you secretly always wanted to create the most over-the-top Christmas light-adorned spectacle of your home or set up a fabulous girly tree complete with all the pink trimmings? You now can, because being single you have the option to deck the halls—or not. Perhaps this year you’ll start a new tradition of going away with other single friends to an exotic beach locale or volunteering at festivities for your church, synagogue or community center.
Reason #4: You can be Fun, Flirty and Fabulous at all the Holiday Parties
Put on your best party dress or suit and revel in the holiday spirit. Without the stress of having to make sure your significant other is having fun think of all the time you’ll have to collect kisses under the mistletoe.
Reason #5: There’s No Undue Expectations
Expectations for the holidays are already unrealistic—single or not. It’s rare that everything will go smoothly but being solo does take part of the pressure off because you hold the power to create your own special day. The best part is that all the choices are in your hands. If you want to spend the evening sipping hot chocolate and watching a reality show marathon you can do it.
Your relationship status doesn’t have to determine your holiday cheer. Spend time this season reflecting on the past year and what you want out of life in the future.
Usually, i have a boyfriend and wouldn't care to be single during the holidays, but this year I purposly took a break from dating and getting through christmas was a breeze. At first I was worried, because my immediate family celebrated x-mas the weekend before & parents were going out of town to see my uncle, grandma, cousins. Then i decided that I too would go visit the relatives and I had a great time- It was especially great to hang out with my single cousins i hadn't seen in years. Especially with my immediate family, i always feel like the odd one for not being married, but since my cousins were also single and enjoying it as well, I really didn't feel so odd and had a great time.
It makes me feel all warm & fuzzy to read all the good reasons everyone can think of for being single during the holidays, lol... I used to be so afraid of being single or 'appearing' single, but now as I'm starting to really put myself first and do the things I want to do, there really isn't a much better time than right now to be single!!
I do not care for being single at Christmas time as when I go to my cousins house for Christmas it is good to spend time with them, but when the gift unwrapping starts I feel uncomfortable because I am the only one not paired with a mate.. I do not show it on the outside but on the inside I feel sad.. I try but people only see me for a friend.
This year I am single for the first time, and I have to say I have never been happier! I got to spend most of the money on myself for once. I am known to spoil my BF on Xmas, but now I get to spoil myself!!! I get to do what I want for once too. I dont have to spend boring days with the families. I can house hop if I want. This year is good and I hope next year will be better. MERRY SINGLE XMAS!!!
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