5 Dating Deal Breakers for Men

There are certain traits that'll have men running straight for the hills, not the altar. Get clued into these dating deal breakers.

5 Dating Deal Breakers for Men
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She Doesn’t Have her own Life

One of the best things about a relationship is being able to have a built-in best friend. Your partner is the person you can spend a lazy Sunday with or your big Friday night out. However, be sure to keep the relationships with your own group of friends intact. Men want a woman who’s not only willing but wants to have a girl’s night out. It’s attractive for a woman to have her own hobbies and interests. The time apart only reminds him of just how great you are.

Bad Habits

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Whether you are a smoker, or constantly the sloppy drunk at the bar, it’s clear your vices could be a deal breaker for a potential mate. Sure, the party was great but while you were getting inebriated he was busy being embarrassed or talking to someone who wasn’t slurring her words. Besides the obvious vices, some men say bad habits like poor hygiene or being very messy are also a turn off. Just think, would you want to date someone with bad breath or a dirty bathroom?

She Doesn’t Tell the Truth

“No one wants to date a liar and trust is the hardest thing to rebuild in a relationship,” says Bay Area-based executive Brian Hauptman. Lying just proves to your potential suitor that you aren’t really interested in a relationship because with Internet search engines and social networking sites it’s simple to do a quick check to see if your story is true. Before lying to your date about your age, career or education just think that if the relationship does work out he is eventually going to find out what your birth date is, where you’re employed or your alma mater—and that’s going to be an awkward conversation to have.

She isn’t Confident

“I hate girls that are always down on themselves,” says Los Angeles-based photographer Todd MacMillan. Women who don’t deal with their personal insecurities before meeting Mr. Right are only setting themselves up for a potential deal breaker. It’s normal to have a bad day but constantly being negative about your body or looks only brings attention to your flaws—real or perceived—and makes you come off bitter and negative, traits that are never attractive. Just like women, men are looking for a mate who is self-assured.

Cheating (the Ultimate Deal Breaker)

Most men will say cheating gives them carte blanche to call off the relationship. As one of the biggest deal breakers, there are not many second chances when it comes to cheating because it’s setting the person up for another bout of infidelity.

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At the end of the day, men want a queen nah. just Freddy Mercury.
- January 23, 2009 10:41 AM

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purpleone wrote:
I think many men out there are just shallow, selfish and egocentric. They want what they want when they want it. You have to beat them over the head to let them know what YOU want. They almost never ask. Men's egos are just like that -- they seem to want everything to revolve around them and they are intimidated by women who are smarter than they are. When they do really nice things, it's because they WANT something. Oh well, if I sound bitter, I am, a bit. I have been through a lot with guys. More than once. Still looking... I think the whole key is to NOT have sex until you are engaged or married. There is simply too much at risk emoptionally. The ones who are the jerks will leave you if you do not go to bed with them, so that leaves only the ones who truly care about you as a person ---the only ones worth having! That's what I call natural selection!
At the end of the day, men want a queen, yet the rise of the pseudo concept of feminism has convinced many, many woman of the exact opposite; ergo, the widespread problems in marriages and relationships. Further, in these modern times, you cut your chances drastically by waiting till engagment to become physical. You'll get two types of men that way - the hardcore religious or the timid/meek/feminized - so the question would be, Is this what you want?
- January 23, 2009 07:07 AM

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yet more trite, insipid pablum from eHA. certaintly nothing I would see as gender specific. WHo would want to date someone smelling like a beercan used as an ashtray, lying in a urinal? Or one who is searching online because they are unable to find any contacts in real life? has no interests other than aping yours? a psychic vampire that sucks the joy out fo your life because they lack the...gen it alia to get a life of their own?
- January 22, 2009 12:36 PM

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