What the Evolved Man Wants to Hear from You

Nanette: that was dumb

Hey im not dubm!

A trip to Tahiti has psychic value to me.

angelofmerci: I agree with what you say about communications but sometimes what is said and what really happens are two different matters. An example would be how to handle the finances. Both parties reach an agreement but then down the road one party changes theagreement or totally breaks it.

In this type of situation no matter how much you communicated and how well your trust would take a beating creating cracks in the relationship.

I'll expand on this in the event it helps anyone out there.

In theory my ex and I made agreements about spending money. And then she'd get a pedicure, an expense that I thought was totally outrageous. And we'd have a subsequent "disagreement" about it. However, if she would have communicated what it meant to her, the psychic value, I could have seen that and we could have come to some sort of compromise on the expense. Without communication, all I saw was $$$$$$$$$$$ and broken agreements.

D_Lion: Let us dispel a myth: All women are not fragile in need of self-worth stroking. So go ahead, say what you want and not what you think she wants to hear!

Except, don't forget to admire her shoes and give her jewelry for special occasions.

that was dumb

eharmonyadvice: Let us dispel a myth: All men are not cavemen

Aaeeurrgh??:confused:

Hhrreeugh!! :(

Living here in DC, a city full of viewpoints (LOL), the "oh so agreeable" "milk toast" approach does not work. Many singles will be driven off by this approach, say it was "boring" or even see red flags.

Being honest and being yourself -while of course, respectful and well-tempered - is the way to engage a man and jump start a relationship. If he is secure and open-minded, he will find you fascinating when you start revealing your true self.

Of course, this approach works best when he is truly evolved and is able to share of himself. It's a total turn off to date someone who wants you to reveal all, while he hides.

Good article, and I wish I could meet some evolved men who are willing to stick around and get to know me. All of the men I've met online have great profiles, but when we meet, all they way to do is hop in bed. If I had known in advance what they really wanted, I could have had the option of moving on, or not.

jayjay: This article is pretty close to my own view of women and relationships. The 'say everything you want to hear' woman would seem very immature and needy to me, whereas the 'honest' responses seem like a healthy individual I could have a good and honest relationship with.

However, D_Lion's response above doesn't seem to apply equally and is almost laughable. What is that saying about women? Does it mean they don't want or can't handle the truth from men?

Does this post make me look fat?;)

Great article! And very accurate.
What woman fail to understand is that there are 2 parts to all human beings...the caveman/caveman woman side (which is still run on instinct) ...and the 'human spirit' side of us (which desires that more 'evolved' partnership).
Woman, by instinct, are Master Adapters. It's not a bad thing...but it does often make a woman, or adapt, to fit what we perceive to be the needs of others.
That old joke that a woman marries a man to change him, and a man marries a woman hoping she won't change ...well it's a great illustration of how we are when instinct kinks in.
The 'evolved man' as you say, or the human spirit side of him (as I like to say) truly does hope that a woman tends to her own needs first. He knows if we don't care for ourselves, we won't be able to be the type of partner he truly needs.
So ladies, take care of yourselves first.
Give to yourself.
Be selfish...cuz it's not REALLY being selfish.
A good man knows if his woman is tending to herself and her needs (sleep, exercise, alone time, etc), then she'll be a more confident and authentic woman.
She'll be his Queen.