The 'Do you Like Me?' Problem
There isn’t a surefire way to tell if someone definitely likes you, unless you come right out and ask the person, but there are signals to look out for to find out if you’re liked more than just a friend. Your potential partner’s body language, actions and words can give you insight into the feared—do you like me problem.
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Are you a Priority?
Even the busiest eligible will find time for a date if he or she likes you. Suddenly, schedules become open or priorities change when you like someone. Even the most overworked and overcommitted person can find time for a coffee in the morning or a quick lunch date.
If you’re only seeing the other person when it’s convenient for him or her and there are no compromises when it comes to making time for the relationship, it’s time to move on because there are a lot of other people out there just waiting to like you. “After a date, how quickly does the person follow up and say I want to see you again,” says author and Internet dating expert Evan Marc Katz. “The world’s greatest date followed by two weeks of silence, what good is that.”
Do you Have Meaningful Conversation?
If your potential partner is engaging in conversation with you and keeps the talk flowing once it has started, there is good reason to believe you are liked as more than just a friend. However, use common sense, if you’re having a great conversation with your colleague or someone who is getting paid to talk to you, like a waiter or your therapist, don’t jump to the wrong conclusion.
Does the Person’s Body Language Give the Right Clues?
A good rule to remember is that if your date is showing positive body language clues such as touching your arm during conversation, making eye contact, constantly smiling and leaning his or her body into you, it’s a good sign. If your potential partner is comfortable with you in his or her personal space, such as, letting you sit close on the couch to watch television together or allowing you to hold hands or put your arm around the person, chances are you’re liked and there’s a connection.
Are you Being Treated Differently?
A solid sign he or she likes you is if you’re brought up when the other person talks about the future. It shows the person is looking forward to being with you and having a long-term relationship. If your possible mate is booking vacations with you months out, inviting you to be his or her date at a family or friends wedding or if you’ve spent time with the other person’s family during big-ticket dates like the holidays or a birthday, it shows you’re seen as more than just a friend.
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mjohns34
January 24,2011 at 09:38 amSteverino....I was in a relationship just like yours, except she was more of a severe committment phobe. After just two-three months, she was starting to withhold affection, pushing me away in many other ways, etc. I was only seeing her every weekend or two and "it was too much". It really caught me by surprise. I found out that she had 15 relationships in the last twenty years. When she got too close to someone, she began to sabotage the relationship so it would fail in the end. So I agree, sometimes you don't see it coming, and I had fallen in love with her after a couple months...it was tough.
Caprica77
January 18,2011 at 10:08 am:confused::confused:
Caprica77
January 18,2011 at 09:59 amMove Foward
Caprica77
January 18,2011 at 09:11 amYou just need to ask him how he feels or move on. It seems like he's trying to hook you up with his friends or he's trying to tell you he likes guys. Either way you need to know where he stands so you two can go to the next level or you can move on. Believe me it doesn't take a guy five months to make a move. If your friendship is that strong you should be able to ask him anything. I just went through the situation myself. I was afraid of losing him, but I was tired of having those feelings towards him and not knowing where he stood so I just told him how I felt and ask him how he felt. We are still talking and developing our relationship and I did this after 1 month. I don't see how you can live confused for five months. I hope you get the courage to speak up soon because you could be missing out on your Mr. Right for something that may never be. That's just my two cents on the matter.
adviceischeap
January 16,2011 at 08:57 pmHe might be just as afraid to bring up the subject as you are. He may be bringing his guy friends along to give you plenty of space as well, so he doesn't scare you. On the other hand, he may be giving you an indication that he is interested in just being friends. The important question is, does he invite his guy friends when he initiates a plan or when you initiate a plan? Why's that important? Well,(1) if he had initiated the plan, he may feel obligated to invite his friends along too to indicate to you that he respects the boundary between the two of you as friends. i.e. he doesn't risk you thinking he's interested in a date with you (even though he may well want one).On the other hand,(2) if you had initiated the plan, he would feel no obligation to invite his friends along. If he does want a one-on-one with you, he wouldn't want his friends tagging along. But if you see a trend in him asking his friends along, it could indicate that he's just interested in being friends with you.Caveat: It could go either way. He may or may not be interested. Those are just my perspectives and food for thought for you.>> This has been going on for the past 5 months or so. How can I progress from the friendship stage to the girlfriend/boyfriend stage or a more well-known dating stage with my guy?Take baby steps of affection toward him. If they are reciprocated, up the ante. Your affection will keep escalating to a point when you feel comfortable telling your true feelings for him (or vice versa).HATH.
LAFITE
January 16,2011 at 11:33 amIf you have spent a great deal of time with a man over a period of a few months and he has not kissed you, why would you want him to be your boyfriend? Are you not romantic or a physical woman? Why don't you kiss him and see what happens? If it spooks him, good riddance.You need a better sense of self-esteem.
LAFITE
January 16,2011 at 11:33 amIf you have spent a great deal of time with a man over a period of a few months and he has not kissed you, why would you want him to be your boyfriend? Are you not romantic or a physical woman? Why don't you kiss him and see what happens? If it spooks him, good riddance.You need a better sense of self-esteem.
frogprince
January 10,2011 at 10:19 pmIf someone really likes you should know it pretty easily. People that like you go out of your way to see you. They are estatic when they see you.
I think if you have to ask that question you already know the answer if you have already started dating. If you are just acquaintances who have never dated and you are getting signs then you could ask.
tedmarston
January 10,2011 at 09:35 pmYou can learn some by online chatting, more by talking on the phone and the most by talking in person, I think. In person you can read their body language and you can look into their eyes. That can tell you a lot.
DCfan
January 10,2011 at 08:32 pmWhat if you're talking online? You can't really tell then?
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