Stereotyping: Top Ten User Comments
Stereotyping has been a hot topic of conversation lately on the boards. Here are the ten smartest, most insightful or our just plain favorite comments regarding the subject from you -- the Advice Community.
CrystalJourneys: "Let go of the stereotype to find the person! While you're so busy assuming things, you're missing out on truth! Every person, male and female, is different! Just like the old addage - "Dont judge a book by its cover" - don’t assume, because you make an a** out of you...maybe not me lol"
IceCream Moon: "Debunking stereotypes is never easy but it is possible. If it wasn't, Obama woud never be elected President, and I would be at home doing laundry and baking dinner every evening, instead of having a successful and fulfilling career. Education is key though. When enough people recognize the need for change, it happens."
Little Blue Monkey Mind: "For instance, if as a woman I continually pursue men who are the perceived "ideal" (by general assumption, not by my own standards) of tall, dark, handsome, wealthy, and I am continually being rejected ... I then translate that to mean that men don't choose me because they want women who look like models...the fault lies not with men but with my own image of myself, of my values in mate selection, and of my own limitations in terms of being open to the possibilities."
legend29: "Gender wars????.....I hate that term...but suspect that it is just a term, because children are born every day, and marriages are formed all the time; thus men and women must be getting along and being civil sometimes!"
sabete2002: "Yes, men and women are different. We are also a lot alike. I choose to celebrate the differences. Vive la difference!"
Harry G: "We as individuals are complex and unique. As such we cannot be classified that easily. For those who wish to throw generalizations around rather than open dialogue, this little statement is unnerving. If we remember that each one of us CANNOT be categorized, that may open the lines of communication."
D_Lion: "Though some people take exceptions to hearing 'men all want good-looking women,' there will be men who participate in those threads to confirm that, for them, they do exactly that. I think there is value in welcoming all input, because, while 'looking for less shallow men' may be appealing to some as a matter of personal values, 'taking steps to improve your appearance' is also a strategy one could use."
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Jacquesne: "The fact is that we all have a gender and I personally believe people should be proud of that gender. If women weren't women I wouldn't be so hopelessly obsessed with them. Sometimes the idea of 'diversity' comes to a point where people start believing that any admittance of differences is creation of stereotypes. I don't believe that. I believe that diversity is accepting that people are different and learning from those differences…"
tbesq: "That said, men and women are different. What attracts men and women to their mates is not the same. What offends men and women is not the same. How men and women communicate, and resolve conflict in general, is not the same. And how men and women deal with subjects most sensitive to each respective gender is not the same. These are all things to keep in mind…"
Bandmate: "I saw a bumper sticker once that said...'You are a unique creation of God...just like everybody else.'"
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SaffronLeaves
June 29,2009 at 10:56 pmCrystalJourneys had a good point about letting go of stereotypes. But unfortunately with many people that's never going to happen. I have tried to let go of mine, and gotten pretty good at telling myself that I need to talk to and get to know a person before assuming what kind of person they'll be. But I haven't been treated the same way. As a Black female in the dating world, I feel we get the full fury of being stereotyped. Much of it is because of the media. I'm well educated, own my own home, and pretty good at taking care of myself. But some of the men I meet (and I don't mean all - just some) have this picture of what I'm supposed to be - a golddigger, lazy, lots of kids ( I have none), sloppy, loud, uneducated, etc. Women of all races can fall into those categories, but with Black women it seems to be expected.
Wootz
June 26,2009 at 07:19 pmLOL! That *WAS* the shallow comment!
And fun and entertainment are as close as your nearest joy bucket, milady. Directions:
1. Put your fingers in your ears (to shut out the typing in stereo you might be hearing...)
2. Close your eyes (so you can't see what I'm typing, either)
3. Say "Wootz!!" VERY LOUDLY. (it works for me *grin*)
... And if this doesn't work, I've been told bare nekkid skinny dipping, target practice, meditation, shoe shopping, wood chopping, and trying to keep a straight face when such random silliness is going around works, too... *grin*
Then again you can look closely at the stereotypes and try and take them to their logical conclusions... Okay, I have to admit, those are good for a laugh. I can't but think of me rejecting a woman because she is "too successful and educated" without peals of laughter... *grin*
IcecreamMoon
June 26,2009 at 06:44 pmNo at all. Politics and states of economy leave me feeling rather...cold. Especially now.
eH_Advice_Admin_Lori
June 26,2009 at 04:40 pmI said the things he noted!!!! :rolleyes:
D_Lion
June 26,2009 at 04:20 pmNot the one about management of British Rail?
D_Lion
June 26,2009 at 04:18 pmAh, eHarmony advices comes clean about the articles ...
Mr_Right
June 26,2009 at 12:31 pmShallow as in a good thread about how it's shallow for guys to like fit women and girls to like taller men? :eek::D Or shallow as in Archie choosing Veronica over Betty? :rolleyes:
I kid, I kid. :) Ah, Fridays... gotta love em.
IcecreamMoon
June 26,2009 at 03:50 amStop being so deep and meaningful already! You are beginning to nauseate me as much as Mr_Right. In all the Right ways, of course, but I'm craving some fun and entertainment. I've had enough of "deep" for today. Ready for some "shallow" right about now... :eek:
Wootz
June 26,2009 at 02:48 am*chuckles* Aren't we all? We're all based on a "type" (gender) and the variation that we grow within that type is vast and wonderful. Plus the Pooh rocks. *grin*
IcecreamMoon
June 26,2009 at 12:33 amPooh happens to be one of my all time favorite characters, even though he is also based on a stereotype ;)
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