10 Tips for Finding Love This Year
In the spirit of the New Year and my passion, which is helping others find love, I’ve written resolutions especially for you. Now tape this list to your bathroom mirror, and go make love happen in 2012. You deserve it.
New Year's Resolutions To Find Love:
1. This is the year I am going to find love. I will put dating before my social life and my work. I will set aside at least two nights per week to date and will make it my number one priority. I won’t just talk the talk. I’m going to walk the walk.
2. I will change my attitude about dating because there are great men out there, and I will do what I need to do to meet them.
3. Home is a 4-letter word! I will get off the couch and out of my house, even when I’m exhausted from work or would rather lounge around in sweats. I will go to singles events, meet-ups, happy hours and every single party I’m invited to. I need to my put energy into meeting someone because the odds are, it won’t just happen.
4. I will smile and chat with strangers – not just because I want to meet men, but also because I want to share my positive energy with others. Everywhere I go, I will smile, chat and share myself with those around me. I will put down my cell phone, look up and make real connections.
5. I will tell all of my friends, family and co-workers that I am available and want to be fixed up. I will let them know that I appreciate every introduction, even if it doesn’t work out.
6. I will date online with a unique, positive, playful and sincere profile with excellent photos taken by a professional photographer. The best way to meet single men is to date online, and I’m not going to miss the opportunity.
7. I will burn my list. If I’m so smart and know what my ideal man looks like, then why haven’t I found him yet? I will let go of my “type” and will date a wider range of men. Maybe I’ll date a little older or a different race. I challenge the Universe to surprise me and know it will take care of me.
8. I will be a great date. I will walk into my dates without expectations knowing that I might make a new friend. I will be warm, kind, positive, a great listener and will always be appreciative. I will smile, be upbeat and have fun on my dates. I will leave negativity and talk of past relationships at the door.
9. I won’t take anything personally. I know I’m fabulous, but not every man will realize this. If someone isn’t interested in me, that’s not about me. That’s about what he’s looking for. The man I’m going to fall in love with will think I’m amazing exactly as I am. He will be excited to date me and will show me consistently with his words and his actions.
10. Even if I have a bad date or a bad night out, I will not get discouraged or give up! This is going to take commitment and hard work, but in the end, it will be worth it. I will keep my chin up and have a positive attitude because love is just around the corner. This is going to be the year that I find love because I am going to make it happen. I’m excited and say “thank you” in advance for the wonderful man who is about to enter my life.
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Anonymous
April 20,2012 at 08:17 amWhat a joke... yet another example in my opinion of getting us all pumped up so we will spend the money on this stuff.
Everyone I know (with one exception and I will get to that one in a minute) that is in a decently healthy relationship had it happen when they least expected it to-and not online... and the one friend of mine that did meet someone online jumped into a rebound situation, and I am certain that relationship is doomed for failure.
And let me get this straight... we are supposed to set aside 2 nights a week for dating. Wow... considering I havent even had a match sent to me in 4 weeks now, that sure is opening up my schedule for what? A ghost date?
No thanks..... I am just going out and meeting new friends. It is almost like dating has fallen into the arena now of the societal plague of all or nothing... like everything else.. date, date, date, because if you dont, clearly you are doing nothing at all.
And I love the part about how this will be the year we will meet someone! Hello!!!! Are we future predictors? Are we God? Come on eharmony...
And one more thing: I speak for many when I say that there needs to be some kind of filter/question with persons that are still married on here. Does anybody understand that rebounds dont work????
Anonymous
April 10,2012 at 08:55 amhow about one for the men??
*** will set aside at least two nights per week to date and will make it my number one priority. ***
- which works just great, if you are a woman and not expected to pay for dates 99% of the time...
*** I will be a great date. I will walk into my dates without expectations knowing that I might make a new friend ***
nobody joins a dating site to make friends ( as said by the eHarmony advisors themselves, so which is it??)
Anonymous
March 3,2012 at 10:46 amOk, one guys perspective, and I won't speak for others. I would just as much like the woman to make the first contact. Similarly, if she asked to set up the first date that would be just as welcome. It dosen't matter who sets it up because if you are not compatible nothing will come of it. If you are compatible and something special clicks wouldn't you both be equally happy? More importantly, BOTH need to put forth some effort because there are usually some significant physical distances involved when you find a prospective mate. BOTH need to meet halfway, and take turns doing the long distance drive necessary to start a relationship.
If that happens, and you click, the drive will soon be nothing but anticipation!
Anonymous
April 10,2012 at 09:51 amMore importantly, BOTH need to put forth some effort because there are usually some significant physical distances involved when you find a prospective mate. BOTH need to meet halfway****
and therein lies the snag.
on one hand, women want to be treated as " equals". until it comes to dating and such matters... then , it's up to the guy to do , pretty much everything. initiating contact, "chasing" the woman, but of course not toooo much ( whatever that means, too much , not enough, who even knows these days, lest you get labelled " needy ", " creepy" or something else entirely unflattering ) , suggest the date, plan it and pay for it. more often than not, the only halfway thing about dating is the woman agreeing to meet you out someplace " 1/2 way ", and even that is out of fear of letting a guy know too soon where she lives.
Anonymous
January 23,2012 at 12:10 pmI get a kick out of #5 and #6.
'Hey everyone - I'm single, available, and drop dead gorgeous! Date me!!!'
Hire a professional photographer...Hmmm. Um -NOT
You don't need a pro just to snap decent photos of yourself for any online 'profile'. Get real here. Or, unless that portion of this cool article was meant in facetiousness only.
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I will come in from a slightly different perspective here...
It's not about "looking" for someone. We all can do that. And yes, I've delved the online dating thing; several times. Did I meet anyone of quality? Well, that all depends on how one defines Quality. I emailed with a few who seemed 'compatible', but never actual meetups. I prefer to let God be my "matchmaker". Now, don't get me wrong -I've known some old single friends who DID find true love, Online :) However, it isn't for everyone :)
I've even heard Delilah (yea, her) speak of "finding love" on her radio show. She too is loaded with dating wisdom :) Too many of us spend too much time "searching" for "the one". It really isn't about "looking". Perhaps it's more about Being (the right one.) Makes perfect sense to me :)
SWF and liking it
January 22,2012 at 10:03 amUgh. So in other words, lower your standards and be as desperate as possible. Yep, that'll reel 'em in!
SWF and liking it
January 22,2012 at 10:03 amUgh. So in other words, lower your standards and be as desperate as possible. Yep, that'll reel 'em in!
A guy
January 22,2012 at 08:46 amWell, this is too ironic for me. It's funny how we all are in the same situation; need someone to share life with but can't find it because we have (very likely) expectations. The best thing to do is be really, not virtually social.
Anonymous
January 21,2012 at 07:04 pmWell, I am not getting much out of this online dating either. Not many contacts or responses when I contact someone. Those very few who contact me are not at all what I would be looking for. My profile is pretty positive, I won't change it because it reflects who I am. Outside of the online world I have guys who hit on me once in a while, but most of them tend to be either married or pretty old. I am beginning to thing that this is a waste of time.
Maureen
January 20,2012 at 09:46 amThis is horrible advice. I've been online dating, have joined social groups for years. Years. And I haven't met a great guy yet. And you're telling me its my fault that it hasn't happened yet because I haven't tried hard enough? Well let me tell you something, Eharmony and Michelle. Maybe if the guys that you set us girls up with actually RESPONDED, we could be out dating at least two nights a week like this article says. And I'm supposed to be putting dating over my social life? Wrong again. And PS it does JUST HAPPEN. I know plenty of people who have done online dating, matchmakers, social groups and then found someone randomly and fell in love. This article is bogus and why is only geared towards what women should do? What about the guys? This article should be about how to make yourself happy while you're trying to find love, not how to change yourself in order to "make it happen".
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