Photo #4: You’re Dressed as a Superhero
We get that some people really like to dress up in costumes even when it isn’t Halloween. There are many social events and social circles where this is accepted and encouraged, and more power to people who find their niche in the world. However, while your friends may understand your penchant for dressing like the original Superman at Comic-Con, most people perusing your profile won’t.
We aren’t suggesting that you make an effort to—excuse the pun—disguise who you are. In fact, any person who’s worth your time will delight in your quirkiness. But when you’re putting yourself out there, it’s best to save the fun photos for later on down the road.
Photo #5: You’re Posing with Something Expensive
To give the profile photograph some perspective, you’ve decided it would be a good idea to pose next to your brand-new luxury car. Surely no one will be able to resist someone who’s leaning against a BMW, right? Wrong.
When you pose next to one of your toys or stand in a way that shows off your Hermes bag, you come off as superficial. When it comes down to it, no one wants to be with someone who cares more about things than people.
There is a caveat, however: if your hobbies include tinkering with or collecting expensive toys, it’s okay to include them in your profile picture. Just make sure you are trying to represent you, not your net worth.
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Photos mean differnt things to differnt people at different age groups. The way the eHarmoney web site stores and portray photos does not help. It could learn a lot from Google, Picasa, flicker, and others as to how to properly store and display photo's. Instead of acting like a photo cop, you should figure out why facebook is able to present the same photo in a much more atttractive way that eHarmoney.
- January 30, 2010 03:14 AM
I know this article is old, but I'll respond anyway.
After reading through many of the comments, I really have to say, I think some of you jump to some pretty hasty conclusions. Several people have basically shown that they assume a guy is a one-dimensional, brain-dead hick simply from seeing a photo of him fishing or in hunting garb. I grew up in a rural town in Appalachia. While there, I knew several doctors, professors, and other educated people who enjoyed hunting and fishing. How would you all like it if I made some outrageous, insulting, and stereotypical assumption about you based on something you liked to do, or did at one point in your life? Another commenter said that she automatically closed out guys who showed pictures of themselves dressed in T-shirts, jeans, and ball caps. The fact that a guy dresses like that doesn't mean he's an uncultured, boorish slob. If he's hanging out with his friends, at a ball game, or at any other casual event/get-together, there's no need for him to be decked out in a shirt and tie. If you were going to a picnic, would you wear a pant suit or an evening gown? Probably not.
- January 04, 2010 04:45 PM
Love this Blog! After a long term eHarmony relationship, thats all I have, eHarmony adores me. Actually they adore my money! Each month eHarmony hugs me in order to reach into my wallet.
No Photo gets no reply from me! [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-tongue-out.gif[/img]
Is that considered a "reach around?" :D
- December 30, 2009 05:11 PM
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