The Three Cs of Great Sex

After all, let’s face it: when the sexual aspect of your connection isn’t strong and healthy, it can take a toll on the relationship as a whole. It can lower the quality of your communication, your emotional bond, and even your trust. On the other hand, when you both enjoy a sex life that’s consistent and mutually enjoyable (which doesn’t necessarily mean constant or even all that frequent), then you’re both going to be satisfied with where things stand between you in a physical sense. As a result, the strength and depth of the connection will reap the benefits of this satisfying physical and emotional closeness, and that leads to the third “C.”

Communication Offers Fuller Sexual Intimacy

Obviously, sex can be exciting and satisfying on a purely physical level. But genuine satisfaction and fulfillment in the relationship require that you and your partner take the physical excitement and satisfaction we’ve been discussing and use these to move you further, toward establishing a deeper and more meaningful emotional connection. Once again, communication is the key.

It’s a fundamental reality in relationships that the more you open up to each other and make yourselves vulnerable by sharing your intimate secrets and desires, the closer you can feel to each other. Now, obviously, there are better and worse ways to communicate with each other, and you should use good judgment in terms of how and when you share your desires. But assuming that you can both remain honest and open with each other, this type of frank and direct communication can take your relationship to whole new places, both physically and emotionally.

And notice that it goes both ways. Not only can an exciting and satisfying physical relationship lead to greater emotional intimacy, but the reverse is true as well. Communicating your most intimate desires and preferences is another way to bond emotionally, which enhances passion and improves physical chemistry. Just think about it. When you connect with each other deeply on an emotional level, then you’re going to be willing to open up to each other sexually, meaning that you can really connect in the bedroom. And when that connection takes place, both of you end up feeling cared for, not to mention stimulated and satisfied.

Again, talking with your partner about your sexual needs and desires isn’t always easy, since it requires openness, honesty, and vulnerability from both of you. Remember, each one of you is responsible for communicating your unique needs and preferences, both in a general sense and from moment to moment. Talk together about what it is that you each like, what you want more of, and how you can make each other even happier; then enjoy the excitement, satisfaction, and intimacy that come with good communication and great sex.